In my quest to understand true belonging, it becomes clear why there are times when we must stand firm in our decisions and beliefs, despite the fear of criticism and rejection. As I pondered this, the image that came to mind was not of a vast wilderness, but rather a boundless expanse of uncharted territory.
Throughout history, the wilderness has been a powerful metaphor used by theologians, writers, poets, and musicians to convey a range of experiences. It can symbolize a challenging environment where we face difficult trials, or a serene sanctuary where we find solace in nature's beauty. Regardless of its representation, the wilderness consistently embodies solitude, vulnerability, and a journey of self-discovery.
Belonging wholly to oneself, so much so that you are prepared to stand alone, is akin to entering this uncharted territory—an untamed, unpredictable space of solitude and exploration. It is as perilous as it is awe-inspiring, as coveted as it is feared. The wilderness can feel profane because we cannot control it, nor can we dictate others' opinions of our decision to explore its vastness. Yet, it is in this untamed wilderness that true belonging is found, making it the bravest and most sacred place to stand.
The unique courage required to experience true belonging extends beyond merely braving the wilderness; it demands that we become the wilderness. This entails breaking down barriers, abandoning our entrenched beliefs, and living from our authentic selves rather than our wounded hearts.
Navigating this uncharted territory cannot be done along well-trodden paths. While I can offer insights from those who have found true belonging in their lives, each of us must forge our own path into the unknown. It may not be easy; some parts of this journey may be daunting.
To truly belong, we must intentionally engage with those who are different from us. We must be willing to step out of our comfort zones, engage in difficult conversations, seek moments of joy, share our pain, and remain open to curiosity rather than defensiveness. True belonging is an active practice that requires vulnerability, discomfort, and the ability to be present with others without compromising our authenticity.
True belonging is not about fitting in or conforming. It's not about taking the easy route or sacrificing who we are to feel safe. It's about having the courage to face difficult moments head-on, knowing that it is in these moments that true belonging is found.
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